Commune with yourself

It is taught that praises and honor should not make us vain and similarly criticism should not provoke us. Islam specifically teaches that we should honestly commune with God about mystery of creation and appreciate the reflections of reality. We should regularly commune for our own assessment too. Every religion of the world teaches us to be moderate and expects us to follow justice in all the conditions of happiness, anger and pain.
If we commune regularly with ourselves and analyze our day to day conduct and way of thinking, we find that thinking and identifying mind is the same and this is akin to ego. If we simply question, who feels pain or pleasure and who wants to know all this; gradually we start getting answers. When we go on analyzing in this manner we find that our own identity starts changing and a different development takes place. This altogether changes the way of looking at things for us and goes on helping us in perceiving the reality.
There should be regular and thoughtful analysis of our own conduct deciphering what we do for being respected in the society and what changes we make in ourselves and our behavior, to be liked by others. We find in our day to day life that we gradually become captive of the desire of being liked. We have to sacrifice so many things in this pursuit of life including our self-respects. This is how the identifying mind gradually makes us a part of mad race of this world. Being thoughtful, gradually weakens the identifying mind and our ego also becomes weak.